Question by : I want to start cheerleading but my friend will be stressy with me?
So my friend does cheerleading. She always talks about it and stuff. She sees it as ‘her thing’.
But I want to do it aswell. and when I told her this she said ‘I dont think you should.’ and When I asked her to explain she wouldnt. Also I would be going to the same group as her.
I dont know what to do. She is like my best friend but I really want to do it! And I dont see why it would annoy her so much!
Any advice or opinions please ๐
Best answer:
Answer by davidmsmock
She may think you’re trying to invade “her thing.” She also may just not see you as the cheerleader type. Don’t worry about it though. It’s not up to her to decide for you what to do.
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What a b!tch. If you want to try something new go for it. The only reason I can see her not wanting you to join is because its “her” thing. Well news flash, Cheerleading can’t be done very well with just one person. It takes a group effort.
Tell her to explain or your signing up anyway. And when she tells you its because she “just doesn’t want you doing the same thing as her” sign up anyway. what is she going to do? Sulk? OOH NO!
Maybe she’s afraid that you’ll be better than her. If i was u i wouldn’t let my friend (or best friend) make the choice for me. If u want to be a cheerleader then BE a cheerleader. Don’t let anyone stand in ur way, who knows? Maybe it could be ‘your thing’ also. If u want u can surprise her. Don’t tell her ur going to try out, just show up without her knowing. And i don’t really understand wats her problem because it could be a great way to spend more time together ๐
Do it anyways, she’ll get over it. shes probably scared youll be better then her. go to it with out telling her. It’s your choice, not hers. If shes like “what are YOU doing here?!” just be like “oh i joined because i thought this way we could spend more time together”. Or maybe she dosnt want you to join because she thinks youll get in the way of her and her cheerleader groupies, just dont be clinging and dont “try to steal her friends”, you know how people get sometimes. If shes your real friend she won’t mind you joining.
The same thing happend with my friend, i didnt want her to join horse back riding because it was “my thing” (i even told her that) because i didnt want her to be better, she just HAD to join anyways. but im SOO over it because i reliesed how selfish i was being by making her miss out on the fun and that wonderful feeling you get when cantering (sorry- im babbling now) Were both natural riders and just as good. it all worked out because now she always comes to my house to ride my horses and we go riding together all the time, and im actually pretty happy she joined.
Hope i helped!
xx Phoebe
I had the same problem. Except I was in the position that your friends in. I was in cheerleading for a year, then one of my best friends wanted to try out for the team. I got very jealous because I always felt that she was the was best out of everything we did. I always tried to be supportive in her when it came to trying out, but secretly I didn’t want her to do it. I wanted cheerleading to be my sport. I was wrong to think that way but I just didn’t want to feel unimportant. Because all my friends knew that I was the cheerleader in the group. So my advice to you is to go for it. Its what you want to do. And if she gets angry at you for it then you know she’s not a good friend. You might fall in love with cheerleading, and you will never know if you let her stop you.
hope this helped. ๐
Maybe she doesn’t want to have the guys getting their attentions off of her. lol You might just be a real hottie. No, I’m not gay. But, then again, she might not advise you go through all the physical stress it can bring. But, if she’s actually “annoyed” with you about it, that’s kind of immature on her part. If you want to cheerlead, GO FOR IT! You becoming a cheerleader will reveal the real reason why she advises you not to. She might just then, start revealing a side of herself you didn’t know she had. Don’t let her affect your decision. She doesn’t have to be the center of attention all the time.
I’m not saying she’s a bitch, but just go ahead and cheerlead. See, then, how she reacts to it.
Go for it.
If she’s a good friend, then she’d be fine with it. She may be like…a little annoyed at first. But it’d be fun to do something together.
And, maybe she wants cheerleading to be something that’s her own special thing. Like, she wants it to be her special thing. But try to show her that it can be like an activity that you can share. ๐