Question by awagner1971: My daughter is 8 years old and is a cheerleader for youth football?
I went to pick her up from practice tonight and she informed me that one of the other cheerleaders Mom told her that if she were her daughter she would smack her in the mouth and that she would also smack her butt. My daughter along with all the other girls according to the coach were being rowdy. This Mom though is not a coach or even an asst coach. She is merely a Mom, who insists on staying at all practices even though the coach has asked us not to. My question is how do I handle this, what should i do? My first thought is to bust her in the mouth, but I am trying to be mature about this whole situation. And what breaks my heart is my little girl said when the lady said it, it made tears come in her eyes . Any advice?
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Answer by enez79
smack that bitch upside the head for being a white trash hoe
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Tell the mom that she has no buisness telling you what to do, nevermind even TALKING to your daughter, and that she should really just mind her buisness and not go to the practices (although i would advise wording it more politley if you dont want to come across too mean)
definatley pull a csi move get your daughter to tape record this woman as proof when you bring it in to the school’s administrator… any other parent yelling at a kid of mine would be punched across the face for abuse like that!!! you’re the parent and these kids are doing a healthy activity other than getting into drugs and sex at their very young age.
I would walk up to her and tell her that I did not appreciate her talking to my child that way and if she just had to smack somebody to try to smack me. I would inform her that it is not her place to make these kind of remarks to anyone’s child, expecially mine.
who picks on an eight year old? That women does and she doesn’t even deserve to breathe air. Her daughter is probably going through a lot and hides it behind a pretty face. This woman wants her child to be the best of everything and won’t take no for an answer. That’s how she was raised, while Cheerleading is suppose to be fun and help people gain friends she thinks it as a college application. Tell her to never talk or criticize your child, because you give her the respect of not doing it to her child. Tell her that you hope she can’t sleep at night for making an eight year old cry. Ask her if she is happy? If she ignores you, that says a lot about herself and how immature she is to walk away from an adult conversation.
Sadly, you are not going to change the despicable behavior of this Mom. You are right to be concerned for your daughter. The only suggestion I can offer is to have a talk with your daughter. Explain to her there are sad people like that in this world who believes it makes them feel bigger to bully a child. Tell your daughter this woman is sick, and it has nothing to do with her. You should also talk to the coach to see what can be done to keep her away from practices.
Votre fille n’est pas l’autre responsabilité de maman, elle est le vôtre. Avoir un discours avec l’entraîneur et la découverte hors ce qu’est arrivé. Ce n’est pas cette autre responsabilité de la mère pour regarder hors pour votre fille ! La Maman est mauvais !
1.If you start getting into the other moms face..it will end up ugly and may escalate into something that you both may regret.
2. You need to explain to your daughter that some people get upset for the smallest things and tend to get out of hand and to just listen but not take it personally.
3. Talk with the coach to find out if the rules actually apply to everyone and if so why has he/she not enforced them.. and explain the situation….then take a seat and enjoy the practice….I find it odd a coach forbids parents to watch.
And finally–keep your cool…your Daughter is watching you and seeing how you handle strife.
I’m sorry if your daughter’s feelings were hurt. Unfortunately, since you weren’t there, all you have is one side of the story. It’s hard to say what exactly was said to cause the mom to have said she would think a spanking or a slap to the mouth would have been necessary. Not that I think ever slapping a childs mouth is acceptable- but it makes you wonder what came out of the girls’ mouths that was so unacceptable. Your daughter and the other girls aren’t likely to tell you, and the couch would not have been in hearing range to know. The other mom might not have been out of line in thinking you would not have approved, and although her methods were questionable, her motives might not have been.
I’m also curious as to why a coach would not want parents staying for a practice session where there are players and cheerleaders of that young age. I would personally not want to leave my 8 year old with only one or two other adults present- especially if their attention was going to be focused on other things.
Perhaps you might ask the other mother her version of the events, before you pass judgement and things get out of hand. You could mention that your daughter was upset by her remarks, but depending on what the other mother says, you might find her remarks were not much different from what yours might have been had you heard and seen all.
Before you say your daughter would not say or do things like that, I want you to remember she was with a group of other girls. I have 6 kids, and I’ve learned that what they will do when alone, and what they will do in front of you, all changes when they are in a group or away from adult supervision or you. I discovered it for myself, when my eldest son played church group softball. I happened to turn up early to pick him up, and he hadn’t seen me. Ordinarily, he did not curse at all, I’d never heard it out of his mouth. Yet I heard my 9 year old son yell some very crude language, and even make a remark about the “endowments” of a classmate. Needless to say, he got a nasty surprise when he did see me. I’m not saying this was the case- but I do suggest you brace yourself for a picture of your daughter you would not have suspected.
I’d also consider hanging around for practice sessions. Something about a coach discouraging parents is fishy. Smelly fishy, and not a situation to be trusted. You have to wonder what goes on that he doesn’t want parents to witness. Maybe nothing, but definitely not a situation I’d want to encourage.
i think they need different coach!! if the only thing the coach says is they where all being rowdy!! the coach is one that is sapost to keep these kids safe and sound when they are with him or her!! i would complain to the school about this lady & the coach!! if you contiu to have more proplems, you should consider taking her out!! this is a inportant age and you don’t need cheerleading doing more harm then good! my kid’s school took it out of the school b/c of parents like that one!! they are now in UPWARD cheerleading!! it is a great program! maybe they have it in your area!? it is usal ran throw a church, and they don’t allow stuff like that around the kids!!! check with your local churches!! good luck:)
I think that you should find out which mom goes to the practice and inform her that YOU are the parent of your daughter and that she needs to stop going to practice.
If she refuses then maybe you should just slap her!!! *(jk, nrt)
Really though if she refuses then you should just tell the coach that she said that parents couldnt watch practices and that she should enforce her own rule.